Divorce By Mail!
Imagine that you live in the USA or one of the European countries and that you wish to get rid of your wife.
If you were a Christian or a Hindu or a Jewish person- you would have to file for divorce in a court of law and wait for your turn in the court-( usually 1 year)-.
But if you were a Muslim either from Saudi Arabia or Lebanon or Pakistan – you could write on an ordinary piece of paper 3 time the word divorce, have your buddies sign it, send it by mail to your relatives in your home town in the Muslim country that you are from and guess what you got your divorce done. This is Islamic Justice as seen by the Muslim Women . And if you think this does not happen- think again it happens every day.
So if you were a Tableeghi -( and perhaps you are not) and your aim was to convert as many infidels into becoming Muslim- you would sell this idea of the option divorce by mail to all the non-believers .
And WOLA ! you will have converted a lot more Muslims in the West and saved them and their souls. If you think this is a joke- think again because it is not.
The story of one -( yes just one for now)- helpless girl who was made destitute instantly by her own husband- ( a Physician in training ) was told here on CRAZY HORSE under the title of Islamic Divorce previously.
When the original story was placed here there were in excess of 200 comments with a great deal of criticism of the victim and the writer of the story and a lot of questioning of the motives as to why a story like this was being put on this PK POLITICS web site.
A very Large number of the commentators accused the writer of doing this to DEFAME Islam and so on.
The purpose was and still is to throw light on such evil deeds that are rampant in our society both in Pakistan and esp:overseas in the Western countries.
A great deal was said about the Islamic Sharia and how the enforcement of that will magically solve everything.
Will it ?
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shimatoree
November 18th, 2009 at 4:51 am
The level of abuse in this audio recording is just horrifyingly astounding. Shahzad Siddiq has proven himself to be a true lowlife. I have no doubt that this sorry excuse for a human being will get what he deserves in a court of law in the United States. The law is on the side of an abused women and this idiot is going to regret his conduct big time. The order of protection granted by the court is a very powerful weapon. If Shahzad Siddiq continues with his abuse one more time and if the women brings that to the attention of the authorities he will face some really dire consequences. Any act that he commits to influence the ex wife is a violation of the order of protection. I would love to see this guy end up behind bars where he belongs and be schooled in mannerism in the shower of a county jail by incarcerated criminals who will politely request him to pick up and bar of soap to start the lesson. This dimwit barbarian thinks he is still living in a barbarian country. He needs a wakeup call!
November 18th, 2009 at 2:20 pm
I happen to be A’s university mate and I am trembling after reading…. Domestic violence are a part and parcel of one’s married life.. but the point is both shud have patience… what abt the KID.. is anybody thinking abt the child…
My question from Dr S is if he wanted such a religious wife (which I am sure he is accusing her without any reason as the A that I know has been very religious) then why didn’t he go back to Pakistan.. why does he want to stay in America….
he being so Islamic is making fun of the Divorce law of Islam by violating it in procedure….Islam has given a proper procedure of divorce.. is he fulfilling it .. if not then how could his so-called islamic divorce take place….Moreover even in islam, the rule of teh country u are a resident of rule on you.. thats what our Islam says….
Has he tried to enforce islam on himself first.. what is he doing in America in the first place.. he could have gotten posted to an islamic country in teh first place.. are Dollars so bying for such a TRUE MUSLIM to leave his islamichood…..
CUT this crap…. Mr Islami Dr. S first come back to Pakistan and try helping the poor nation for free.. have you ever operated/seen a poor free without any purpose!!!!!
My question from Dr. S is has he stopped looking at bare legs of ur fellow non-muslim lady doctors working with you… Have you ever tried to convince any non-muslim to accept Islam especially any of ur senior doctors!!! NO… you hypocrite.. since you are afraid of getting kicked out.. GOD you hypocrite muslim….
I would only request both S and A to resolve their matters like two mature people.. get reconciliation…at least for your son… you guys have spent ur life.. enjoyed it.. now why not tolerate each other for the rest of ur lives for ur Kid…. else shouldn’t have given birth to a child to spend a divided life!!!!!
November 18th, 2009 at 2:28 pm
Dear A, you are not alone sister…. I am with you…. please let me know if you need any sort of help….. I am really crying for the three of you.. I hope you can reconciliate with your husband if not then only for the SAKE of your child…..
life gets restarted.. nothing gets stopped but plzzz plzzzzz plzzzzzz try your level best to reconciliate with your husband… this happens to many women all round teh world but in the end woman has to sacrifice and compromise as man is made to earn, houses are maintained by women!!!! i feel very deeply for you…. please let me know if in any way i would be of any help to you…..
Please talk to your husband.. there is always a way for reconciliation….please please please think of your child…. its now about his future….. its still not a divorce and both of you can reconciliate….
Allah give you both courage, sense and empathy….
I seriously wish i could see the another post of you both having decided to reconciliate.
November 18th, 2009 at 3:22 pm
Sandeela-
a further note-
Dr Shahzad Siddique on June 6th-( after having thrown his wife out)-
through his family and friends both here and in Pakistan started character assasination of his wife by telling a blatant lie that he had not thrown out his wife but that she had run away with a Hindu !
In ref: to him going back- just take this.
Since he has been in the USA- he has NEVER gone back even to see his parents.
November 18th, 2009 at 4:39 pm
Everyone-
We are still working on further details and documentation of this story and hope to have it by this weekend .
Thank you for your interest and we hope you will continue to follow this Islamic divorce BY Mail !
November 18th, 2009 at 7:32 pm
I don’t think so that A should consider recommendations about reconciliation.
The nature of this guy ‘S’ can’t be changed and of course after this situation he’ll be much bitterer towards his wife and so the child will be for sure in an abusive atmosphere if mom decides to live with ‘S’ again. One should ask him/herself that is it possible for them to live in this kind of relationship.
Also ‘S’ seems to be extremely confused about the religion and he thinks of himself as some kind of master to his wife, in the meanwhile he also wants to be benefited from his wife’s wealth which makes his personality more confused. This guy has so many flaws in his character and an ‘Islamic getup’ is so good for him to cover up his ugliness. All the men from Islamic community are with him because they also possess the same character to a certain extent.
We really need to know that why does a Muslim man need a submissive and mutilated wife who is forbidden to speak or act for herself?
Why does he hate a woman who wants to challenge the oppressive male-dominated norms of the society?
Do we Muslim really have some kind of genetic disorder or there is some thing in our scriptures?
In my opinion the problem is in the subjective and ‘masculinist’ interpretation of the verses of Qura’n by our ‘male chauvinist scholars’ of Islam.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:11 pm
Dildar
I do not believe that there is any genetic defect in Muslims.
The whole issue is about POWER on others but the society and the religious establishment-( along with older women!) DOES inculcate and perpetuate the thought that women are some less human than men. Boys grow up in that atmosphere and so do the girls. So when the girls get married- and their husbands feel that the POWER over the wives is rightfully their- how do you make them give it up.
It is sort of like asking Zardari or Musharraf or Nawaz Shareef giving up their power !
As to why this girl remained in this abusive relationship for so long- the reason is simple. Every girl is taught-( brain Washed ) into thinking and believing that they must make their marriage work and it is their responsibility to make it work no matter what
November 19th, 2009 at 12:17 am
This guy should be made to give up his job as a physician, he is insane and risk to his patients. This despicable person is a coward picking on females because they are physically weak. He deserves everything thrown at him by the law, I wish the sister best of luck and i would remind her to stay positive and things will improve as time passes Inshallah.
November 22nd, 2009 at 5:39 pm
You guys are worried about girl being divorced by email but in West in the so called civilized society everyday thousands of girls are dumped by their boyfriends by text messages – how so ever long they have been living together. The concept of marriage has become rare with passage of time in the Western society because of the cost of breakup of the marriage is so high – the man loses everything in that process – plus the women even if they are dumped the state can look after them but in societies like Pakistan if divorce is taken or there is break up of the relationships – the woman has no where to go but only the parents. So we should try to realize that whether we should copy the west or make our society with values of compassion, care and love and state looks after its most vulnerable. Some feminists advocates want that a woman should have the right to divorce also – but believe me although there are some men who dont treat woman very well but in overall scenario a woman always loses out drastically should a relationship fail. So think before we try to advocate for new laws.
November 22nd, 2009 at 8:51 pm
chussain
The topic here has nothing to do with what the short relationships in the West are like.
The issue is that a great deal is and has always been talked about Islamic Sharia will solve all the problems only if we give it a chance.
As this case shows- it will not as long as there are dishonest and mean people around like this Doctor
November 23rd, 2009 at 3:00 am
Me Dear Brothers and sisters,i have a similar story to share with you all, and make you guys judge of it,and tell me if it is the islamic law or peoples or own behaviour.
and this is a true stroy about a Pakistani guy whom i met last year in Downtown la.(He was abused and batrayed by her wife whom he sponsored to come ourto untied states).
what that girl did to her was really horryfying and it really made me to think that if a Pakistani girl can ever do this to her husband,normally we all have a very good image of a Pakistani girls that they are very cultured and very obedient to their husbands, and we never think off any kind of negativity frome them, but when i heart his story it really changed my view and opinion about Pakistani girls.
iam also frome Pakistan and love Pakistan as much a every other Pakistani does, but it was a really shocking for me to hear, that a Pakistani girl kick her husband out of his apartment, and got divorce frome a usa court,without his will, and with him being present in the court.
and one day he receivd a letter frome the Court that his status single and he is no more a husband to his wife, whom he married also in Pakistan and his Marriage Certificate(nikah namma is also Frome Pakistan).
when i heart that i was really shocked and surprised to hear, now the question came to my mind how could a USA Judge, can issure divorce and make a paksitani guys status single without him being present in the court, and also take his kid frome him.
they both married to according Islamic law, and they were married in Paistan, they both are Pakistani born Muslims, their Marriage certifcate is also frome Pakistan.
Than under what law the usa Judge announce divorce betwwen them,knowning that they are both muslims,and did not marry in united states,(now i have a question for all of you please tell me if a usa judge can announce divorce between, two muslim couples who are not born and raise in usa, and did not marry in usa,but in Pakistan, and married according to islamic law, than what right a usa judge has to announce his satus as single without him being present in thecourt and against his will)
plese if any body have any answer please let me know.
now coming back to the story, about this Paksitani girl what happen to her is realy bad, but it is not the islamic sharia law it is the muslims who misuse the Sharia for their own benifits, now united states is a place where every body once come donot go back, and once they come here, it changed their way of thinking, and every thing about them changes,they become monsters, with no marcy and kind ness for no body, and they become very selfish.
specially when womens comes frome other countries, when they see the kind of freedcom they can have, they change them selves also, and once they know their rights, they really do not care about any body, and do any thing they have to do to be free,and live a free life.
when i met this Paksitani guy in Downtown la, after he got kicked out of his apartment by her wife, he had no shoes on him,and a teard shirt and a pair of slacks on him, he was on his cell phone talking to his father on the phone in urdu and iwas standing right next to him, he was talkingto his father and crying at the same time, when i heart his conversation with his father, i asked him what happened to him, first he got surprised how do i know urdu, wheni told him that iam also frome Pakistan than he hugged me and stated crying,i took him a side,got him a pair of shoes, gave him a nice shirtto wear,and took him to my hotel room.
his condition was so mizerable i cannot expalin in words.
than he told me his full story, which i expalined in short above, he was divorced by her wife by a usa judge totally agianst his will, and totally agianst the islamic sharia law.and she also took his kid frome him, and court decided agianst him, the only thing he can do is to just to go and se his kids for4 hours in the presence of a Security not alon him self.
What this Pakistani girl did to this guy, was really horrifying,and it really made me to tramble for a while.
the guy spend the night with me, and next morning i had to leave, he has no where else to go, except in a home less shalter. where they stole his shoes, whichi gave him to wear.
The only reason iam writing this is buz it is not sharia, who does not have a solution for all of problems,but it is the human being who once come to united states, they all beocme monsters,and forget about them selves where they came frome.
they have no marcy for no body,every thing is about them.
and if they find some one innocent who does not know his right,they make his or her life mizerable.
there are millions of stories like this in usa,if i start writting those stories, it will open up peopels eyes, and they will not ever again drema off coming to usa.
they really dont know the reality of this country,once they find out they will preferto stay where ever they are.
i have been living in usa for past 14 years,and if tell you guys my own story, when i cam to usa, what things had happned to me,it really will make you guys cry.
the only thing i can tell here is that my own really brother had also kicked me out, frome his apartment at12:pm mid night, knowing that i have no where to go.
so you all can imagine what kind of evil world is this.
i can truely understand what had happened to my this sister, and why did it happenned.
this is not some thing new, and it does not have any thing to do with shaira law.
Hope every body would understand this now.(it is the people lik Dr,s who becomes really monsters, when they see the luxury and money in their pocket, and fell them selves superior than all,and every body else looks very low, and less important to them).
hope i had expalined enoguh so please do not try to devlaue shaira, it is a beautiful thing for us to spend our lives
according to Islamic Principles.
November 23rd, 2009 at 5:47 am
Waheed
Everyone everywhere says that under the present conditions Islamic Sharia is the legal system that will solve all the problems that face Pakistan and the Muslim world.
I am just asking questions dealing with one very specific issue. I feel bad about the incident that you have quoted- but you have not given any details of the case.Please provide details of the case.
In the USA if there is a complaint against you and you do not come to the court- then the court will rule against you- a one sided judgement.
Yes the judge in the USA has authority over anyone who lives here as the laws of the USA will apply and have priority over any other laws of any other country
November 23rd, 2009 at 12:00 pm
waheed your madeup fake story is very touching! I have tears in my eyes but only if it waqs true. Service of process is the procedure employed to give legal notice to a person (such as a defendant) of a court or administrative body’s exercise of its jurisdiction over that person so as to enable that person to respond to the proceeding before the court, body or other tribunal. Usually, notice is furnished by delivering a set of court documents (called “process”) to the person to be served.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Service_of_process
November 23rd, 2009 at 4:56 pm
@supercreature
Read this story carefully and recall many more like this which happen every day in Pakistan, have an unbiased approach and then ask yourself,
Why it is so easy for a guy to get rid of an unwanted wife?
Why it is so hard for a girl to get rid of an unwanted husband?
Your asked why the author tried so hard to relate the specific incident with Islamic Laws by calling the incident as Islamic divorce or a muslim divorce.
The answer is IMO is in the biased interpretation of the Islamic laws towards men. In Pakistan particularly men get all the benefits and women are the victims. The guy (husband) in the above story knows this very well and that is why he was trying so hard to send his wife to Pakistan.
Now imagine for a sec that all this had happened in Pakistan, woman is thrown out of her house, the child has been taken by husband so what next?
I would really appreciate an honest answer from you.
..and yae regarding laptops, if I were her, my husband is abusing all the time and counseling with his relatives in front of me to how to get rid of me for free then what you expect from me?
Wouldn’t I be thinking all the time how to save myself, how to make it sure that my child be with me knowing the facts that I don’t have my legal papers. Therefore my first effort would be to get the papers. I have tried so many times and he is not giving it to me so next time I’ll be ready.
I have kept ready the laptop; I’m the one who started all this by making demand for my papers knowing very well what would be his reaction. I might be also provoking him to so that I can make my case stronger as I have nothing to loose. I would know that this is my battle for survival so I am fighting it hard all by myself as I am all alone. The Islamic neighborhood stands with him; therefore I would definitely do what she has done. She is one brave lady and I wish her all the best.
November 24th, 2009 at 3:25 am
All-
The story is just about complete with very few items remaining to be uploaded.
November 24th, 2009 at 8:20 pm
I’m horrified by anyone suggesting reconciliation. What is wrong with you people? No one. Not a single human being should be subject to this kind of abuse and be expected to live in fear of the next time it happens. Because it WILL happen. Character does not change. Behaviors and patterns may or may not change over time, given enough impetus, but character does not. To suggest that abuse is part and parcel of marriage? Who are you people that think that? Abuse is NOT an accepted part of marriage. Ever. Under any ruling or religion. And if you think it is, then wow. Just wow. And you want MORE people to follow that religion? That’s not a very effective recruiting tool.
November 25th, 2009 at 9:53 am
sandeela, you seem to be a sincere person. i know this couple.
This is a fictitious story presented here after twisting the facts. I know dr shahzad tried his best for reconciliation but ayesha did not agree. i have got some information from other people in sioux falls that dr. rifat hussain did not want their reconciliation. may god have curse on such satans.
you mentioned that why dr shahzad does not return to Pakistan. Actually when Dr Shahzad told Ayesha that he wants to return to Pakistan upon completion of his training, ayesha did not agree as she was addicted to this wonderful western life. So she acted on plan B to make domestic violence allegations and try to get U.S immigration via this route as advised by dr hussain.He is the real person responsible for breakage of marriage of this couple and he has still been doing his best so that they don’t reconcialite
Dr.Shahzad is returning to Pakistan next month to serve his people. May God bring the truth in front of everyone and reveal the true faces of hypocrites.
November 25th, 2009 at 2:45 pm
sadia-
Perhaps the voice in the recording is NOT that of Shahzad Siddique !
Perhaps Dr. Hussain made Shahzad Siddique go through an acting routine and surreptitiously taped it while sitting 350 miles away.
Perhaps Shahzad Siddique did not throw Ayesha out of the apartment at 10 PM on June 5th !
Perhaps Judge Fabian is wrong too!
Perhaps the Court order against Shahzad Siddique is false too.
Perhaps the next door neighbor’s-(3 years) sworn affidavit is wrong too and fictitious !
Perhaps the sworn affidavits of the collegues of Shahzad Siddique are all fictitious and made up.
Perhaps when Shahzad Siddique sent Ayesha to Pakistan and did not give her visa papers to come back is false too.
And on June 5th at 10 PM you called Ayesha and offered her help and shelter when she had no one to turn to .
NO you did not do that but a non-Muslim Hindu lady provided her help and shelter and an American lady after that.
If you think Shahzad Siddique to be such a good person – perhaps you would like to get him married to your sister or daughter or niece.
If you did that- then you will have to face upto the truth about Shahzad Siddique that you are unwilling to face up to .
And perhaps you might consider speaking the truth too.
And as to what Dr. Hussain did – he was the only person who did the right thing and the guts to help this girl when all of your kind were hiding . He is a Pushtoon and like most of his kind he is unafraid and resolute and a good human being.
And that cannot be said about your kind.
November 25th, 2009 at 3:02 pm
Sadia
For you to blame and criticize the victim of abuse is-
is dishonest and criminal.
After having suffered for 4 1/2 year day after day, being afraid , fearing for one’s life , being psychologically and emotionally shackled by her husband- and having been abandoned by her Muslim community which continued to believe the tormentor and abuser as a “respectable’ person as YOU-( Sadia)- still do.
Ayesha did the right thing and YOU-( Sadia)- who thinks otherwise is simply dishonest.
November 25th, 2009 at 4:13 pm
If anyone has doubts about this blog not accepting dissent-
READ the comments of Sadia above.
November 25th, 2009 at 4:26 pm
shimatoree you are a big time looser and oppertunist, surely motived as well
November 25th, 2009 at 4:26 pm
sadia86
I sit here dumbfounded that anyone would suggest reconciliation. There IS no reconciliation because there is no rehabilitation.
Character does NOT change.
That anyone suggest that beating another person – for any reason at all – is acceptable behavior and then encourage them to go back for more is insane.
It is insanity.
Do you not hear yourself?
What is your agenda that would cause you to think that was acceptable?
THERE IS NO AGENDA THAT MAKES THAT ACCEPTABLE. NONE.
Who is in the wrong here?
You people.
You people who think that violence is in any way “normal” or “part and parcel” of a relationship.
Violence is NOT NORMAL. It is NOT THE WAY. And it is UNACCEPTABLE. Period.
Sadia, you make me shiver. I hear the evil in your comment just by seeing the words on the page.
You are the reason women get beaten. You. Not Shahzad who is masquerading as a doctor.
You. How could you not understand that about yourself? Your victim-blaming, patriarchal brain washing insanity is why women die under their husband’s hands and they walk away a free man while she rots in the earth with no voice. You are below contempt.
November 25th, 2009 at 6:45 pm
sadia86
is it Dr Shezad on the audio tape talking with his wife while the child is crying in the background. Dr Shezad is a wonderful father and husband judging by the audio tape. Where can I mail him husband of the year award? Care to share his address.
November 25th, 2009 at 7:10 pm
Oh supercreature. You make me laugh. What has he to gain from this other than to shed light on your particular brand of ignorance?
November 25th, 2009 at 8:39 pm
supercreature
You should consider this event as a learning experience for Barbarians like you who treat women like farm animals and consider them as property. The time for you is now to either life in a civilized manner or end up in jail cell with a roommate name big bubba. The way your father treats your mother at home is not consider accepted civilized behavior in any place other than your home. Open your eyes and learn some good values before it is too late
November 26th, 2009 at 10:08 am
In ‘good wife’ author says that divorce in Pakistan has been dismissed. Here shimatoree says that divorce in Pakistan has been granted??
Author of ‘good wife’ also admits that she did not talk to Dr. S and this is one sided story.
November 26th, 2009 at 11:02 am
All articles by Crazy Horse seems to be against Islam by one way or another and they just shows you one side of a story. Also, many comments will be deleted, if posted against him/her.
November 26th, 2009 at 2:05 pm
It is an undeniable fact that a big majority of we Muslims treat our women as third class citizens. Harassing, abusing and beating of women are very common and not considered as an offence. If someone, somehow dare to talk against brutalities against women, people committing such offence take the refuge in religion by quoting Ayats and Hadees that fit to their silly behavior. Those who try to bring heinous crimes against women to the general public are labeled as ‘against Islam’. What a pity !
November 26th, 2009 at 2:18 pm
dynasty
At the time the story appeared in The News- the Islamic Divorce asked for by Shahzad Siddique was “dismissed” on the technical ground that it was not to Ayesha as she was not in Pakistan.
But in the great Islamic Republic of Pakistan everything can be fixed.
So a few days later after a few calls
from ” higher Ups ” the Islamic Divorce was granted even though Ayesha was still in the USA
November 26th, 2009 at 2:24 pm
dynasty
Your ” Dumb Ass ” doctor Shahzad not only told his story to Dr. Rifat Hussein-( in Aug and Sept 2007) but to quite a few other collegues of his whom he thought would be sympathetic to his views of this problem.
As to the question of LOOP HOLES-
Each and every fact has been researched and carefully examined .
The only holes are in the mindset of those that are desperatly trying to find a way of denial.
November 26th, 2009 at 2:31 pm
umertahir
Your allegation that everything on this blog is Anti- Islam is False and without any merit. You have not read the first posting-
Interview with a Taliban Commander
What is being put on this Blog is exposure of social ills in Muslim society both in the form of commentary and stories.
YOU cannot just wish away these problems. They are there and they affect hundreds of millions of people-( Muslim Women) and their children.
As to the accusation of deletion-
Any comment that is Off Topic or abusive WILL be deleted and has been on this Blog.
If you do not like that- well comment elsewhere.
November 26th, 2009 at 8:17 pm
@umertahir
The writing on this blog is not anti-Islam. The blog does expose and condemn social ills of Muslim society, many of which are falsely justified by religious writings or laws.
Any condemnation of social injustice must hold up the rotten to the light of day so that it can be purified.
Therefore, some of the condemnation will strike upon our understanding of accepted behaviour, which may not be right … only commonplace.
Consider, for instance, if this blog concerned the behaviour of Christian men and women in the Southern US, where I live. You would not know these people, would not be much familiar with their customs, and would see their behaviour in a different light.
For instance, if a Christian man were to beat his wife, abandon her to live without provisions, and ignore their children, would you think of that as evidence of “degenerate American culture”?
If so, what must you think about the situation that Shimatoree has exposed and carefully documented in this blog?
November 27th, 2009 at 2:57 am
The most amazing thing is the total lack of a sense of justice as shown by the Pakistani community in Rochester, Minnesota and by Islamic judicial system in place today.
How can they issue a decree of divorce without even serving the notice on the person who is getting divorced.
If the ultimate goal is to build a humane society for all the children of Islam -( and I hope it is )- then modern marital slavery must be eradicated from all segments of the Muslim nation.
November 27th, 2009 at 4:10 am
Shimatore;
If dr shezad is returning to Pakistan and Ayesha is from wealthy family and computer professional why don’t she also return to Pakistan to serve her country. I assume that her family is in Pakistan.
More than 50% of marriages end in divorce in USA and percentage is also rising in Pakistan. Every divorced person whether man or woman think that he/she has been abused by other partner.
There are many real incidents of domestic violence occur, especially in Pakistan. In USA only an idiot Pakistani would dare to commit domestic violence. Many women in rural areas of Pakistan are oppressed and become victim of domestic violence. At some places they are married to ‘QURAN’. Their parents and brothers don’t give them their share in the property and assets according to Islamic Law. They do keep and maintain rules for women of their houses ( Though some of the rules are justified being a Muslim). But no woman calls 911 or police. Why don’t you write about those issues. There are other serious issues and problems our country is facing like poverty, law and order. I think shimatoree if you are sincere, you need to write about those things.
Has Ayesha been given share or her assets according to Islamic law from her family? If yes, she should not worry for spousal support and if not why don’t she call police and make allegations of domestic violence against her parents and brothers in Pakistan. The way this story has been publicitized. It seems to me that motive here is clear; to extort money from doctor. Which reflects the bad faith on part of so called’victim’.
According to you, this woman is educated, professional and from wealthy family. She has better prospects. After reading ‘ happily ever after ‘ it becomes clear that this woman has been trying hard to get American immigration which makes her motives clear for publishing all this material. There are many powerless, poor women in Pakistan whose matter needs attention not the immigration/alimony and divorce in Pakistan or USA issue of one individual.
If Ayesha made allegations of domestic violence and filed for divorce here in USA when she came to know that dr shahzad would return to Pakistan after training; it clearly rings a bell. She tried to use U.S legal system so that she can get maximum benefit here which shows her bad faith. If both of them are citizens of Pakistan and not permanent resident in USA; they should not mind divorce in Pakistan. Otherwise we should probably suggest to all those women from Pakistan who want to get divorce from their husbands to apply for visitor visa to USA and file divorce here so that they can get maximum benefit.
November 28th, 2009 at 3:35 am
@dynasty
Do not deceive yourself. The bad faith, plotting, and deceit has been on the part of Dr. Shahzad.
He has admitted in the earlier story related on this blog that he wanted to get his wife out of the US so that he could divorce her.
Why? Because she would have no protection, and he would be able to abandon her with no expense to himself.
That she sensibly declined to be treated like baggage is a credit to her courage. There is no credit in this sad story to the husband.
He has chosen to treat his wife like property, not like a human being for whom he is responsible and to whom he is most gently attached. These choices of his reflect horribly on his character.
We must not condone these choices. We, as upright men who believe there are such things as truth, justice, and honor, must stand up for them and condemn those, like Dr. Shahzad, who would abandon the weak and powerless.
November 28th, 2009 at 4:27 pm
dynasty
I would like to ask you -
If in the place of Ayesha it was your sister and you had heard the recording- what would be your reaction.
You do not have to answer that but just think about it in your own mind.
Then perhaps you might think differently about this story
November 29th, 2009 at 3:24 am
Mitchell; you should read story carefully. Writer did admit in both stories that she was not able to establish contact with husband and this is one sided story. Anybody who lives in America knows that restraining orders are commonly issued during divorce especially in favor of women mostly based on words of mouth. During breakage of relationship, many time allegations are made; what is actual story ,only husband, wife and Allah Almighty knows.
The point is that there are some serious hardcore criminals who have looted our country, have made it difficult to survive for poor men, women , children. Innocent people are being killed. There are some other heinous crimes being committed. Poverty has caused prostitution to flourish. Many people take advantage of poor women and young girls. Human trafficking and slavery is common. But Shimarotee is fixated on one marital conflict. He disclosed identities which does not serve any purpose and is unethical.
U.S laws are very strict for domestic violence and thorough investigations are made; If there were any substantial evidence of domestic violence, husband would have been caught and put behind the bars. But this story seems to be an exaggeration either created with specific agenda or shimarotee has personal interest in this matter and may be he is that wicked rifat hussein under the veil of shimarotee who is responsible for breakage of marriage of this couple. I know some such stories where relationships were broken because of negative involvement of other people. It seems that this was the case here as well.
I think that the most heartbreaking part is that a child is involved. In such case even if relationship end in divorce, efforts should be made for amicable resolution but here some people are trying to create endless distances between both parents with this negativism which would ultimately hurt their child.
November 29th, 2009 at 3:29 pm
Sahiba-
In ref: to the naming names- it was only done after Shahzad Siddique through his lawyer in Rochester and his father Mohammad Siddue in Pakistan through his lawyer sent notices to The News -( Jang. com.pk) and in fact identified Shahzad Siddique as the Dr. S in Anjum Niaz’s story in The News. Once Shahzad Siddique had exposed himself on his own- the publishing of his name does not have any ethical curbs of any kind.The documentation of names in this case is a matter of PUBLIC Record. That means it is available to the public.
So get your facts straight first before writing
In fact we have only placed very few of the documents available to us on this Blog.
As to the matter of Dr. Rifat Hussain, I know who he is but he does not have the knowledge nor the capability to write about this case -
but Shahzad Siddique forgot one key fact- that his wife was a computer engineer and had many friends in the same field.
Lot of them are women , they are extremely angry after listening to the Audio Recording -
-and they have pooled their IT resources and expertise to bring this matter in the electronic domain here on this blog.
We have NOT placed the affidavits- confirming the abuse from Shahzad’s neighbors in Sioux Falls and Rochester.
Perhaps people like you would like more documentation and we might place ALL the documents relating to this case here on this blog at the appropriate time .
For example we might consider doing just that including
-the identity of those so-called ” Muslims” who signed on the divorce paper sent to Pakistan by Shahzad
Siddique.
And the names of those – and
their bogus letters that were presented to the court saying that Shahzad Siddique is an honorable man.
November 29th, 2009 at 3:54 pm
Some times we try attribute our wishes with Islam, this is what Shahzad did, and we guys are doubting Islam. Wether it is in christianity or in islam, when a pair fails to live togather and they plan to separate from each other through a quick or slow process, but the process Islam tell is process, you cant say it a quick process or slow process. If some fails to follow that dont curse Islam but the person who is doing wrong.
At the end I would say, these kind of stories are described with a clear mind of defame Islam, but I cant be done.
November 29th, 2009 at 4:17 pm
allah ka banda
This story is being placed in the public domain just for one reason –
-to force the Muslim community to deal with it’s problems itself in a just and humane manner.
Since in this case the Muslim community both in Sioux Falls and Rochester failed to do it’s duty while hiding behind ” I don’t want to get involved” I feel that THEY must be exposed and they have been here.
Anyone who claims that this story is here to defame Islam- is dishonest.
The well researched facts of the case speak for themselves.
The audio recording shows in graphic manner what sort of person if this Shahzad Siddique.
The judgment of abuse by Judge Fabian against Shahzad Siddique is final and has not been challenged or appealed against.
It was Shahzad Siddique who tried to get off the hook by getting an Islamic Divorce from Pakistan while he sat in Rochester, Minnesota.
It was Shahzad Siddique who lied and spread false and concocted malicious rumor on purpose here in the US and in Pakistan that Ayesha had left with a HINDU.
HE DID THAT ON PURPOSE.
Not ONE person from Sioux Falls or Rochester came to the abuse hearing on June 29th to support and defend Shahzad Siddique inspite of his lobbying to everyone to do so.
This whole scenario was done by none other than Shahzad Siddique for one purpose only- to somehow have Ayesha go to Pakistan, and divorce her, get her child and live in the USA himself.
Shahzad Siddique stands convicted of all of the above.
November 29th, 2009 at 9:52 pm
@ sahiba
Sahiba, Sahiba, Sahiba ….
The husband’s side of the story is thoroughly documented, both legally and from his personal point of view.
It is no credit to him, and his goose is royally cooked. Perhaps you could see this also, if the blood supply to your brain wasn’t cut off.
There is a smell about this post. A smell associated with a well-roasted goose, and perhaps the singed feathers of an associated goose who is too close to the fire.
I say this because the smell is not so good, and it seems to be the purpose of Sahiba to first claim something untrue (that the husband has not had his tale heard) and then to invent something untrue (foolish insinuations about the Good Doctor and the abused wife).
For this outrageous behavior, I suggest an experience with me and two pistols at 30 yards. This, however, is a suggestion you do NOT want to take.
Regardless of your anger, you do not want to heed the challenge. Your cowardice will save you, and your eyesight is not so good.
It is difficult for you to see at present, as I understand fully. Your present circumstances make clear sight virtually impossible, and then there is the restriction of blood flow to the brain, which limits other things.
That’s what happens when you’re being strangled by the anal sphincter.
November 30th, 2009 at 5:38 pm
I think the pk politics admin wants to make fun of sharia by asking ordinary people on the complex issue of divorce.The best forum is the scholars or any such council. I would suggest every one should go on http://www.islamonline.net/english/index.shtml and get the FATWA or the opinion according to sharia on their “ask the scholar link”.
November 30th, 2009 at 7:25 pm
Dear Sadia86
This propaganda story has a documented proof which clearly says that (I’m copying the exact words here):
As early as November 28, 2005, one day before the birth of their son, Rayan, the respondent engaged in assaultive behaviour-directed towards the petioner. On that day, he kicked and pushed the petioner causing her to go into labor the following day when Rayan was born
If you really are a woman, a mom, then you might be aware of the emotional and physical pain a woman goes through while having a baby. This is the time when a woman is in desperate need of comfort and support and that is why she is being treated with extreme care by her family members and friends.
I can’t believe that some one could be this much cruel to his wife while having his first baby. Either Dr. Shahzad is out of his mind or he simply didn’t care if his wife or baby or both get killed.
Reallly!
As a matter of fact I also live in North America and know a little bit about the way Police work here. The first thing police do is to testify the person who made the call. According to your statement whenever a call is made by a woman, police always get the man, lol! and how misguided is the saying that this report was not available at the time of hearing, how dumb is the American police who couldn’t provide initial report and how dumb was the court who gave the restraining orders without any justification, lol again.
As per your analogy she kicked herself so that she could go in labor early,….gosh you are the type of women(if you really are a woman) who is obsessed with the slavery and not able to think freely ever or you might have no supply of blood to your brain at all (as per some poster)
Sadia read your post again, what exactly you wana ay here?
Aisha staged every thing. First she took the car (btw you said that she failed the driving test) went to Sioux falls then came back, provoked her husband while arranged already to record every thing to have a nice beating and thrown by her husband at 11 pm, what a crape!
Could you please elaborate!
Read the blog again and you’ll find that the first abuse filed by her was at the time of their child’s birth.
I have no words to explain how our community responds to a woman who is in an abusive relationship and trying her best to get herself out. We have sympathisers here for a husband who would beat his wife like an animal; a husband whose tortures his wife verbally and physically; a husband who would seek money from his wife’s parents and would pretend that he is buying the tickets for his wife.
Are we, as a nation dead? Or we are sick enough that we are sniffing a Zionist/CHRISTIAN conspiracy here.
Or may be we want to slide down every thing under the carpet and pretend clean.
November 30th, 2009 at 8:44 pm
saza
you are dead wrong. The issue of marital abuse and divorce is a fundamental human rights issue.
No one needs the same so called ” scholars ” who failed the victim in this case.
If you have any objectivity left, just look at the
” procedures’ to be followed after a woman is divorced and if she wishes to re-marry her husband again.
It is a joke.
Maybe we should call Moulana Fazlurehman- of Moulana diesel fame and have him issue a fatwa !
December 1st, 2009 at 4:29 pm
DEAR BRO SHEMATORI
THIS TYPE OF ISSUE IS NOT TO BE TAKEN EMOTIONALLY,WE ARE MUSLIMS AND HUMAN RIGHTS ARE TO BE SEEN IN THE LIGHT OF ISLAMIC INJUNCTIONS, NOT ACCORDING TO WEST’S STANDARDS. MOLVEE FAZAL IS NOT AT ALL FIT FOR THE JOB, HE IS A FAKE MOLANA. I REFERED EVERY ONE TO THE SITE WHICH HAS A LARGE LIST OF ISLAMIC SCHOLARS, TO WHOME YOU CAN CONSULT AND GET THEIR VIEWS .
December 1st, 2009 at 11:49 pm
@Saza
Could you please be kind enough to enlighten us about the islamic standard of human rights. Not the one written in books but the one which is in practice.
Does your ‘islamic standard’ take woman as human?
December 2nd, 2009 at 9:13 am
This story reminds me of another similar kind of story. I know one Pakistani businessman who married to a Pakistani girl. She came to USA and after couple of years of marriage, had an affair with another person. To get rid of her husband, she made allegations of domestic violence. She got his house and lived there with her boyfriend with spousal support provided by her ex husband. She also got immigration based on domestic violence case. Fortunately they did not have children.
This is hard to know the facts but there are many red flags in this story which questions its credibility. Though there are many genuine victims of domestic violence both in men and women but there are many examples that some women from our Pakistani culture who made false allegations to manipulate American legal system. Such women set bad examples of other young girls. Of course legal system here is in favor of women and especially the women from our culture who tries to use this ‘anti Islam and anti Muslim culture card’ they often gain sympathies in western world and gain their benefits and that is what I have been noticing here in this story.
December 2nd, 2009 at 3:07 pm
aamir445
if you sister was beaten for 5 years, slapped, spitted upon while all the while the likes of you were telling the victim to make the marriage work , keep the IZAT , be a good muslim etc etc-
You would be singing a different tune.
Since it is someone else’s sister, well you are like the MUSLIM communcity of Rochester that refused to help this girl.
All the facts are here. Your red flags are in your biased and prejudiced mind.
December 2nd, 2009 at 6:21 pm
aamir445
quote –
” legal system here-( meaning the USA) is in favor of women and especially the women from our culture-( read Pakistani) who tries to use this ‘anti Islam and anti Muslim culture card’”
Are you sure you are NOT Musharraf who had said the same sort of thing about Mukhatarn Mai after her gang rape that she had engineered the gang rape her self in order to get a visa for the USA and Canada !
First and foremost when you say ” legal system” HERE-
you imply that you are in the USA.
You are being dishonest.
We know You are in Pakistan.
That says a lot about your idea of honesty and your own credibility.
December 2nd, 2009 at 6:34 pm
@aamir445
Quote from you “Though there are many genuine victims of domestic violence both in men and women but there are many examples that some women from our Pakistani culture who made false allegations to manipulate American legal system.”
So HOW would YOU go about determining whether or not this is a “genuine” claim?
You think perhaps she should just stay in her marriage and home while continuing to get beaten, threatened and spit upon while we wait for YOU to make that determination?
Are you saying that the child should continue to be subject to witnessing violence toward his mother while YOU make sure the claim is valid?
Are you saying the American legal system is full of liars and cheats who only “favor the women” because there is a history of the abuse of women in Pakistan by Muslim men?
Oh wait.
We’re supposed to forget that there is a history of accepted spousal abuse in your country ?
Why should they use historical evidence to help her?
The fact that you’re even questioning the validity of this claim proves to me that you are inhumane and dishonest.
Treating women like pigs is not acceptable in the United States.
It may be where you are from, but it is not acceptable here.
December 3rd, 2009 at 1:09 pm
Travel Visa says:Travel Visa…
WHo says the internet is full of garbage? Great post! Rock on……
December 3rd, 2009 at 6:08 pm
@Dr. Shahzad
The only argument you have is that she made these allegations of domestic violence after 5 years when she came to know that she would have to return to Pakistan with her husband. First of all it is so insane to even use this as an argument. It’s not easy for a woman to get out of a marriage, not at all, but when you threw her out of your apartment in the middle of a the night, that was it.
You better stop calling her Aisha Shahzad, She is Aisha Khalid now.
And here is a link describing you, read and enjoy!
http://www.khabrain.com/idaria_detail.aspx?id=6
December 3rd, 2009 at 6:52 pm
I am related to another case of Divorce by mail in NJ.
The divorce case is in court and there is a six month child involved.
Anyone know of any good lawyer resources which can help out and not charge a ton.
December 3rd, 2009 at 9:07 pm
runaway
the best thing to do is to talk with the LEGAL Aid people in your state . They are usually very helpful.
Another resource you might use is help from the ACLU and women’s organisations. Go to Islamic Divorce on google and you can get tons of information.
December 9th, 2009 at 9:28 pm
we need to know first of all that ‘’sharia” is NOT a divine law. i challenge all to prove it if they can. its just an arab customary law which got its ”divine” nature 150 years after the death of the prophet by some jurists in order to establish their own authority. even abu hanifa (d 150) did not believe in its divine nature. we find very clearly in hundreds of 3rd, 4th and 5th islamic century books how he ridiculed ahadith. to cut it short, if its not a divine law, it needs to be abolished in this civilized world. i dont think we can afford the burden of this stone age law any more…
December 12th, 2009 at 12:00 am
@ Alraji
Nothing in Islam is divine but the divinity of Allah. Creating divinity is a Greko-Roman and christian tradition. This is why Prophet Muhammad (saw)was sent to us; i.e, to abolish divinity of Christ and many other gods and goddesses and to establish the divinity of Allah.
This being said, just a friendly advice, please back your arguments with references. Arguments without references are like curry without spices.
For instance, you quoted, “even abu hanifa (d 150) did not believe in its divine nature. we find very clearly in hundreds of 3rd, 4th and 5th islamic century books how he ridiculed ahadith.” Here you need to give a reference of the text that quoted such an incidence. Without a reference it is just a here say.
Just a friend!
December 14th, 2009 at 3:23 pm
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I was searching for university of north dakota school of medicine” and found this your page (Balloon Juice ” Blog Archive ” More On Stem Cells). Not what i actually searched, but your post looked interesting….
December 24th, 2009 at 2:27 am
Shezad Siddique sounds like scum.
December 25th, 2009 at 2:44 am
If the court of law has ruled that this physician has abused his wife, the next step would be to notify the state medical board – they will hold an inquiry and suspend his license.
His wife should make sure a court also establishes alimony and child support payments BEFORE he runs off to Pakistan.
There are similar stories of pakistani spousal abuse – however the Pakistani community in these cases has helped the victim.
December 25th, 2009 at 3:08 am
khanseena
This guy is running away as we write.
Before doing that he has been on a lobbying campaign in Rochester, Minnesota and Sioux Falls, South Dakota – telling lies to the members of the Muslim community about his imagined “innocence” in this matter.
In this particular case the Muslim community is behaved like the community of Karbala 1400 year ago when they did not intervene and Imam Hussein was killed. I am very happy to hear that others have acted differently. So there is hope.
The matter is known to the state medical board in Minnesota and I think it will be known to any other state boards.
As far as child support and alimony is concerned – there is nothing and by the time the court rules, he would be in Pakistan. But if is ever planning to come back- he should know that he will have to pay for those things and then some.
The legal system in the USA will play it’s course to the full. The judges in this case are fully aware of the deceit and duplicity of this Shehzad Siddique and I do hope that full justice will be done.
January 4th, 2010 at 2:39 pm
I have read all the comments posted by everyone. Few people appreciated my loyalty…and shared with us their point of view of the A-S story….. Isn’t it!!!
As for A’s character, I don’t need anybody’s comments. I know this girl and I trust my personal experience with her and I know for sure she is as chaste as the first ray of the sun!
From humanity point of view let religion be aside…. it is our sole responsibility to sort out any dispute especially if it concerns people who are near and dear to us!!! Its not about who went wrong and who did what!!!! Its about the family structure getting shattered…. Anger is not allowed in Islam for its destructive reasons… and troubles do arise in any sort of couples. Obviously breaking is the last option anyone could opt for!
The thing which we all are not concentrating is the emotional breakage of both the sides… no matter how cruel any body could be but in the end we all are humans…Those who are married or have ever been in a relationship can understand this point. I won’t blame any legal system/both the parties or anyone else. It was our responsibility to have stopped such things from happening giving counseling to anyone who we have known undergoing such phase.
I feel ashamed of myself as a member of this society for not being able to fulfill my duty. Now the max we could do is to look into our conscience for accountability and make the rest of the life for both A and S a bit peaceful and without making them a part of gossip.
I would still request both S and A to go for reconciliation without listening to anyone. Disputes are always temporary. Wounds get cured only from where you get them!
January 4th, 2010 at 11:28 pm
@sandeela
To expect reconciliation would be cruel on A. S needs psychiatric evaluation and anger management classes.
Islam allows divorce and in this case in my humble opinion would be the right thing.
A should aggressively pursue child support and better herself with education and a job. Allah will open the doors and show her the correct way.